Working With Reluctant Writers – week 3

Fine Motor Skills Problems in your reluctant writer

My oldest son has always battled low muscle tone.  His low muscle tone was first pointed out to us during his initial Early Intervention evaluations, way back in the day.  He began seeing a feeding speech therapist, and that helped us loads there.  His fine motor skills as they related to writing, however, made slower progress as we would have liked to have seen.  Finding workarounds is important for us when his hands are becoming exhausted, but we still need to get some learning in.  Below are some tips to help you with your homeschool writing journey.

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How to Strengthen Your Child’s Listening Skills

Listening skills are step one

Yesterday, I talked in our last post, 5 Simple Ways to Help Your Child Follow Directions, about how to modify the environment and your wording of directions to help your child be more successful in following directions. However, it is also a good idea to strengthen the underlying listening skills so you don’t have to modify directions so much.

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Seeking Professional Help for Listening Skills

Now there can be various reasons that children have trouble following directions. You may want to seek professional help in figuring out why your child may be struggling. If following directions is the main concern you have about your child, a speech-language pathologist is a good place to start. To find a speech-language pathologist in your area, check out this searchable database from the American Speech-Language and Hearing Association.

Improving Listening Skills in the Home

If you want to strengthen your child’s listening ability on your own, here are four areas you can focus on and some exercises to get you started. Keep the following in mind:

1) Set aside 15 minutes, three days a week to work on these exercises.

2) Try to always work where your child has about an 80% success rate. As he improves at an activity and is achieving 90-100% success, then make the activity slightly harder. If his success rate is less than 80%, the activity is too difficult and your child will likely get frustrated with it.

A FREE printable is included below to get you started. Suggestions for working some of these exercises into your academic work are also given.

Build Vocabulary

If your child does not understand the meaning of the words used in a direction, then obviously she will have trouble following the direction! So make sure you are using words your child understands and are teaching her new words throughout each day.

There are several words that are used frequently in directions, such as on, off, first, second, third, before, and after. Spending some time focusing on one or two of these words at a time will help your child learn to follow directions that contain these words. The FREE printable below includes a list of common direction words listed in the order most children develop them. Start at the top and check off the words your child appears to understand. Then spend some time practicing directions with the words that give him difficulty.

Chart showing common vocabulary used in directions, ages the words are acquired and columns for checking off mastery and making notes.

Identify Key Words

I talked in 5 Simple Ways to Help Your Child Follow Directions, about how some children don’t know which words in a sentence are the important words. So if you tell them, “get a swim towel and put it in your backpack”, they give the words “and” and “in” just as much importance as “swim towel” and “backpack”. Then they may become overwhelmed with the amount of words they need to remember and process.

If this sounds like your child, spend some time writing down common directions and circling the words that are the keywords. In the sentence above, I would circle “swim towel”, “in” and “backpack”. After you have modeled this a few times, write down some new directions and have your child practice circling the keywords. (Using colored pens or pencils can make this activity fun!) Sometimes, just building awareness of keywords in your child will make it easier for her to start to follow directions.

Direction "Get your math book out of and open to Lesson 56" with the key words 'math book' and 'Lesson 56' circled.

Auditory Memory Practice

Sometimes, children have difficulty remembering the words that have been said. The memory exercises in the FREE printable have your child repeat strings of numbers, groups of related and unrelated words and sentences that you say to your children.

Again, you would want to start at a level where your child is 80% successful. If your child is having difficulty, giving them a visual cue that he can “attach” each word to can be helpful. For example, if you are working on repeating four words, draw four Xs on a piece of paper and have your child touch each one as he hears the word and then as he repeats it back to you.

four Xs with a finger pointing to the third one

One way we work auditory memory practice into our school work is with dictation using our spelling words. All About Spelling has this built into their curriculum. In the younger years, you dictate words, phrases, and short sentences. In the older years, you dictate the words each week and then sentences of increasing length. This naturally builds your child’s auditory memory. You can work dictation time into a variety of subjects in your homeschool.

Practice Following Directions

Simply practicing directions in a structured setting can build your child’s listening skills. It may fit into your child’s academic work. For example, we have been using  The Story Of The World for history and for each chapter they have map work that includes following a few directions. This is perfect for my guys!

If you want to spend some dedicated time on following directions, check out Mystery Words: A Simple, But Powerful Following Direction Exercise. You can also find many dedicated following direction activities and workbooks on Teachers Pays Teachers and Amazon. There is a sample following direction activity in the download below to get you started and to give you ideas of how you can adapt a following direction activity to your child’s level. Again, you want to be working at a level where your child experiences 80% success.

Whiteboard with blanks and some letters filled in for the word 'pumpkin'.

During any following direction activity, you can help your child improve their skills by teaching them the following strategies:


Rehearsal simply means repeating what someone has said to you. This could be out loud, under one’s breath or in one’s head. So you can have your child repeat what you said before taking action. Or repeat the keywords of what you said if you are working on keywords. The goal is for your child to start to do this independently and in her head.


Chunking means chunking or grouping pieces of information together. Phone numbers are naturally set up in chunks so that they are easier to remember. The first three digits are chunked together and then you may remember the last four altogether or you may break them up into two chunks of two. You can teach your child to do this with other pieces of information you may give them.

Download the Listening Skills Packet

I hope these exercises give you quick ways to get started helping your child build their listening skills. Feel free to ask questions in the comments!

More about Randi

When she started homeschooling four years ago, Randi had been working as a speech-language therapist for 18 years.  Her oldest is diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and her youngest has struggled with a visual processing disorder since birth.  Working together, they’ve have learned so much about how to support their individual learning needs.

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5 Simple Ways to Help Your Child Follow Directions

Does your child struggle to follow directions?

Now, I don’t mean the strong-willed child who understands what you said, but wants to exert his or her own independence rather than follow directions. But, the child who is fairly compliant, but just seems to not understand what you say or starts to follow a direction and then gets lost in the middle of it. I personally have one of each!

There are two ways to help this second child who really would like to follow the directions most of the time, but is struggling. One is to modify the environment and the directions given and two is to strengthen the skills involved in following directions. Today we are going to talk about modifications.

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Listen to audiobooks – 15 days of practical self care

Yes, listen to audiobooks…

if you don’t already, audiobooks are a great way to bask in some wisdom or inspiration.  You can learn about something that’s just for you. You don’t have to be peacefully seated, uninterrupted, or struggling to stay awake as you read in bed!

Perhaps you just need an escape from reality a bit?  A good mystery or sweet love story (any other Notebook fans with me?) can be just what you need to take your mind off of endless anxiety loops.

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The Best Homeschool Conference with Zero Travel

Looking for a Homeschool Conference without the hassle?

This is the homeschool conference for you then! I’ve always wanted to attend a homeschool conference, and still do, but between military schedules, childcare, and travel expenses, it’s not a reality for me right now.  There aren’t any conferences relatively close to me, let alone in my budget.  So do we just miss out then?  Nope!  There’s a perfect solution to the homeschool conference problem and I’m sharing that with you today!

Why do you need a homeschool convention?

If you’re like me, you don’t know everything in the world about homeschooling.  You’re still learning new tricks every day.  Sure, I know a heck of a lot more than when I started, and I share all of that with you here in the blog, but there is always more to learn.  That’s where a homeschool convention comes in.

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