Maybe I’m just preaching to myself, but I, for one, think it’s dang hard! All marriages are hard. All relationships are hard, but marriage as special needs parents has a whole extra set of issues! My husband and I had so many issues once upon a time, and they definitely were compounded being Autism parents.
Being in the military was difficult, for example, being away from family, deployments, and moves. Autism amplified all the problems caused by that. My husband and I were once separated for almost 2 years. We went from having a pretty toxic set-up to now being very happily married (most days ). We’re not the perfect couple, by any means, but I’d like to share what I’ve learned that help turned this boat around. Below are 7 of my favorite tools in my marriage toolbox for a successful marriage as special needs parents.
In keeping with my unofficial theme this month, keeping Christ at the center of Christmas, I’m sharing something to help you do just that! I’ve made a Christmas Bible Game and I’m offering it as a limited time subscriber freebie this week. It’s a verse memorization game using verses from the nativity story. There are also coloring pages, pictures, and verse cards.
Previously, in Applied Behavioral Analysis, my son needed to memorize some characters in a story. Each character’s name and characteristics were meant to help he and I identify what was going on with him in the moment, in a way we both understood. He and his ABA provider memorized all these things through scavenger hunts. For each character, he found he had to name them. Then, in subsequent rounds, he would have to name what their struggle was, and finally, they got down to recalling coping strategies. It was brilliant! He learned so much, so fast! I thought this was a perfect method to apply to scripture memorization.
We are the biggest influence in our children’s lives. There is no getting around that. One of my old churches put together a visual example of how many hours a typical parent spends with their children versus how many hours the church spends with their children. It was eye-opening and it’s so true. Their teeny tiny jar cowered in the shadow of the enormous parent jar. Realize how quickly these hours pour out! We really have a fleeting amount of time to impress Christian values on our sweet ones before they are off on their own.