Why celebrating Santa Claus may be a huge mistake

Celebrating Christmas with Santa Claus? You may be making a mistake without realizing it. Here are the 3 main reasons why we don't, and what we do instead. #christmas #santaclaus #momlife #christianmom

Do you do the Santa Claus thing?

I’m about to get a ton of unsubscribes and hate mail for this one, I’m almost sure of it… but I am so strongly against Santa Claus.  My mom sheds a tear or two at this and thinks it’s excessive.  I know you too are probably thinking, “WTHeck?Who hates Santa Claus?!”  Stick with me on this because I’ve got 3 good reasons why we don’t celebrate our Christmas with Santa Claus.  I’m going to make my case here, share our alternatives, and how we prevent any problems that arise as a result.

(Please also know that while I think this is best everyone, I am specifically talking to my family in Christ)

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Keeping Christ at the Center

I know you have seen (a billion times) the saying, “The reason for the season.”  Yet for as much as I see that fly around Facebook, when I worked in retail, all I saw were mounds of people racking up debt.  They’d confess to me that they couldn’t afford it, but they had to.  It broke my heart.  And don’t even get me started on the elves that moms are killing themselves over when they forget to move them.  Unfortunately, I know I don’t get that devastated when I forget a Christmas devotional or study and I’m betting they don’t either.

Celebrating Christmas with Santa Claus? You may be making a mistake without realizing it. Here are the 3 main reasons why we don't, and what we do instead. #christmas #santaclaus #momlife #christianmom

Think about any other religious holiday (outside of Christianity or Judaism).  Do you celebrate it?  Do agnostics celebrate it?  I am sure many say they don’t celebrate Jesus, but they do quickly celebrate Santa Claus and Christmas.  I get it, and I’m happy to welcome anyone and everyone on board any way that is comfortable… but if you’re a Christan, I challenge you to think over your Santa Claus decision for a moment.  Are we really showing them Jesus through this?  I think, by leaving Santa Claus out of it, we are setting ourselves apart as an example for our kids and making a statement to the world.

The hypocrisy of Santa Claus

Sorry! >_<  I know that probably is abrasive on the ears. That first point brings us to this next point-  I’ve seen family and friends (non-believers whom I love) poke fun at the fact that I believe in an all-knowing, all-powerful, God who judges our deeds and character.  I’ve been belittled and scoffed at for raising my children with these beliefs.  “Let them choose for themselves!”  These same people actively go out of their way to convince their own kids that there is this all-knowing, all-powerful, man who judges our deeds and character.

That they are okay with…

Celebrating Christmas with Santa Claus? You may be making a mistake without realizing it. Here are the 3 main reasons why we don't, and what we do instead. #christmas #santaclaus #momlife #christianmom

Santa Claus breaks down trust

And of course, this leads me to point number three.  I have a zero lying policy with my kids.  Don’t get me wrong, I don’t tell them everything, but I am always honest.  Even when I don’t want to be.  When things are too much for their maturity level, I simply tell them that they are too young to know the whole truth.  I remind them I’ve promised to never lie to them, so they’ll have to wait. This trust thing seems to be a very important and useful practice for my ASDer especially.  If you have questions about that, ask me in the comments.

So when I spend my sons’ whole lives teaching them about a loving, wise, gracious God who happens to be an all-knowing, all-powerful, God who judges our deeds and character, they don’t have the seed of doubt planted by Santa Claus.  I feel having that closely held hope dashed in their formative years jades their hearts a bit.  The ability to trust faithfully in the unseen is a bit spoiled.

Does that mean we don’t do presents?

Nope.  We totally do presents still.  What I’ve explained to my kids is that we celebrate Jesus’ birthday, but He doesn’t need presents (often we even make a cake in His honor).  I tell them that our present to Him is our love, relationship, and obedience.  Jesus provides all we need and more; and just like He gave his life for us, the gifts we receive in His name are also a reminder of that.

Celebrating Christmas with Santa Claus? You may be making a mistake without realizing it. Here are the 3 main reasons why we don't, and what we do instead. #christmas #santaclaus #momlife #christianmom

But what about telling other kids?

I admit this is a concern, but that’s where our presents do come in handy.  I do still hold them a bit for ransom.  I’ve let both of my kids know that most kids believe in Santa and it’s their right; their parents are just trying to have fun with them.  We’ve talked about how it would feel for other people to ruin their surprises and how these are private, personal matters.

In the end, point blank, I let them know that if they blow it for other families, we will be celebrating Jesus’ birthday without presents.  After all, they are just something nice, not something we need or deserve.  They get it, and we’ve had pretty good luck overall!  I’ve had a couple of close calls as they got older, but no full exposures. =)  I also tend to warn other moms when we get together around the holidays.

Celebrating Christmas with Santa Claus? You may be making a mistake without realizing it. Here are the 3 main reasons why we don't, and what we do instead. #christmas #santaclaus #momlife #christianmom

So all that to say…

If Santa Claus works for you, and you use it to draw a parallel for Jesus, I get it and more power to ya!  If you are actively using him as a way to speak Jesus into the lives of non-believers, that’s great too…  I don’t want to crunch everyone’s toes with my personal opinion, but as an Aspie mom, I feel it’s been an important way of life for us on our Christian walk and wanted to give you some food for thought. I feel like these white lies are a dangerous thing for of families.  I’m not trying to be a legalist by any means, after all, I rely heavily on grace.

The important thing, if nothing else, is to evaluate where Santa and Jesus both fit into your holiday.


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Author: Jill C

Jill is a Christian, homeschooler, "boy mom", and special needs parent. Jill has ADHD and has learned firsthand how adapting environments can be key to finding success! Her current mission is to empower parents whose desire is to homeschool their special needs children and helping them squash their self-doubt!

2 thoughts on “Why celebrating Santa Claus may be a huge mistake”

  1. I completely agree with you on all points. I, too, was raised knowing that Santa wasn’t real. Our parents also believed it was important to not lie to us about anything (except surprise birthday parties, and we knew that). We were taught it was a pretend game that parents play, and that part of the game was to not blow it for other kids. We *knew* it was Daddy that left the presents. That’s why we left peanut butter fudge (his favorite) next to the tree instead of cookies.

    I apologize in advance for any flaming and trolls your post may bring out. You don’t deserve it.

    1. Thank you for your encouragement and support Anni! I am certain there will be some pushback depending on how much it’s seen, lol. I was hesitant to hit publish, but it is what it is.

      I figured out Santa wasn’t real when I was 4. I was always observant and analytical. I went to my dad with all the evidence and he just laughed and swore me to secrecy. I never felt like I missed out. That’s the biggest thing I hear, people say, “But I don’t want my kid to miss out on the fun and magic.” I still had a ball at Christmas and get plenty of wonder out of the miracles in the Bible. Lol

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